1. I agree with ยจA pause is all it takes to dissipate negative energyยจ. Just taking a moment and pause will save us stress too. I find that when I think about something positive it counteracts the angry feelings I have towards someone.

  2. This is very thought-provoking and comes at the right time for me. I have a two year old toddler and have discovered that I lose my cool with her naughty behaviour, like biting. And I used to think that I was patient and tolerant. This post makes one pause and think.

    1. It’s not easy being a mother and caregiver. But society truly does not give enough credit to mothers – and expects mothers to be angels of calm and love all the time. They are but they are also human with human wants and shortcomings.

      We now have a grand daughter – and my wife and I are recalling all that we once went through when bringing up our 3 children (all adults now). I feel much for my daughter – who has a full time job and struggles to cope. You see, though we love our granddaughter dearly – my heart aches when I see my daughter under pressure.

      Thank you for your visit and comment dear.

      God bless,

  3. Great message. Sometimes righteous rage is enjoyable but I agree anger fuels anger and is highly contagious. Reminds me of that angry e-mail quickly penned, more for therapy than for distribution but, most regrettably, got the ‘send” click by accident.

    1. I need to reflect on that, Jane dear – ‘righteous rage is enjoyable’ – enjoyable? Perhaps, I’m missing something here ๐Ÿ™‚

      Ah, that for-my-eyes-only-angry-email-draft that gets reply-copied to all. Have received a couple but thankfully, not guilty of sending off one. What I used to do is, remove the default reply address(es) first – before drafting a reply. That way, shaking with anger, even if I hit the send button, I receive a pop-up message and that always brings me back to my self-preservation senses. I actually gained a reputation for dispatching only the most polite replies to even the most provocative emails.

      Of course, later in the evenings, I would dance around a fire and burn effigies…

    1. Ian,

      I’ve not always kept my cool and oft times ended up privately embarrassed. And you’re so very right – though I kid myself for having got the better of the other person, in reality I was demolished the moment I lost my cool.

      I’m changing for the better, I reckon – and yes, I say so myself.

      Peace, we all need more inner peace – especially moi,

  4. Hello Eric,

    I read the incident you wrote above. For all it’s worth of his hollering, you should have at least grazed his toe nail, and tell him this is the meaning of almost ran into you. It’s a Sunday, but i have an evil glint.

    In any case, I do applaud you for staying calm and showed him your graciousness. You deserve a big pat on your shoulder and somebody should have taken a video and showed the guy his less than gallant behavior.

    1. Oh, Windy dear,
      And yet, your gravatar hints not of this glint ๐Ÿ™‚
      Fear the charming one, for she is of Medusa and one does not know what will spring forth ๐Ÿ™‚
      Luv and hugz,

    1. This post was prompted by an incident last Thursday at Ministry of Defence.

      After dropping off my daughter and son-in-law at their office, I noticed a jogger had run up to them and started raising his voice. I got off my car and he turned on me. A huge army guy and he started hollering that I had almost ran into him on the zebra crossing. For the life of me, I had not seen him but decided to apologize. He continued shouting. I tried to calm him down with soothing words but he accused me of not been “sincere” with my apology and that I was “patronizing” him. He was intent on provoking me but ended up making a spectacle of himself.

      I was on the verge of inviting him to the Military Police guardhouse where he can lodge a report as I too wanted to make a complain about his behavior towards a member of the public.

      Something must have clicked for he abruptly turned and continued with his jog.

      Oh, well ๐Ÿ™‚

      1. Diana,
        Those who know me, know I can be a badass but age, I suppose, is rendering sanity in me – and I’m quite enjoying it.
        Have a great weekend,

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