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    1. Yet we knowingly enter into relationships…or do we….

      Like lemmings into water, some actions require deeper thought to fathom, I reckon.

      – Eric

  1. Love can be considered an asset, and as human beings, we can only love up to our capacity to do so. Because love comes with a price and an opportunity cost, when we love, we use up (decrease) this asset resulting in a credit transaction, with a corresponding increase on the right side of the equation in terms of the cost/expense resulting in a debit. (LOL trying hard to apply it to double entry bookkeeping).

    1. Hello Dee,

      Yes, it does get a little convoluted.

      Perhaps this thought > no matter what – when a person goes away or passes away, they leave behind pain…Even though some of us might feel that the deceased has gone to something better, they still leave behind pain…Taken in this sense, the above words balance out, I reckon

      Have a great weekend, Eric 🙂

      1. Hello, Eric. Thank you for expounding on the part where we leave behind pain! My brain was struggling with the analogy. Now it all makes perfect sense — one thing we can’t escape is death. AND there is another thing we can’t escape — taxes. And in keeping with the “Asset” concept, when we die, out of our love for our loved ones, we leave them our assets, and they have to foot the “inheritance tax” (at least in the USA), and that indeed is a pain!

        Have a great weekend! Dee 🙂

      2. LOL! You are so very right!

        Fortunately, in Singapore the inheritance taxes are mild – not heavy as in some countries.

        Well, I off to enjoy a bottle of wine with my wife.

        Good night Dee 🙂 …or is it good morning over there?

  2. Love certainly isn’t all roses and moonlight is it Eric. My most painful life moments have come from being loved, and loving. I sometimes feel I’ve been tested by fire, yet here I am. Still standing. Stronger and better for the suffering.

    1. Love takes hard work but provides abundant harvest.

      Not many are like you, standing strong Jeannie. Some turn bitter with every ‘failure’ – sometimes of their own doing.

      Luv and peace, Eric

  3. Wonderful quote, Eric, and so true, but without risk, what is life? Love is worth the risk, thus the stones of experience are paved, so our choices are wiser into the future…Sorry I haven’t visited, lately, Eric, I can’t seem to stay ahead and I still don’t understand why I don’t receive new posts from many I follow. It’s very frustrating, but I hope you’re doing well and saw Soma’s wonderful tribute to your books, too. I will check them out! Hugs and Blessings!

    1. Hello Lauren,

      No need to apologise. Drop by as/when you are free or feel like it. I too do not receive notifications on some of the blogs I follow. I routinely trawl and sometimes it takes me weeks to revisit a blog.

      Yes, Soma is a true friend and a kind soul. Bless her!

      Great big hugz to you, Eric 🙂

  4. Love is such an irony – it is both the healer and the killer. I often wonder why we are given such a contradictory emotion – love makes you feel either in cloud nine or in the pits. When you love, you care but it is also a “burden” you willingly undertake. Yes, every aspect of love is double entry. Could we have been happier if we are devoid of feelings like the monks.

    1. A swipe at the monks? Oh, Jasey dear, you are naughty today 🙂 Those poor fellows always walk with their hands clasped and heads down – searching for something they lost, you would think, when all they have to do is seek within > did I just take a swipe too? See how you influence me…

      Yes, what a conundrum – but like most people, we need love and there are trade-offs…

  5. Inevitable I believe. We would lack the appreciation and the deep profound sense of how important love is if we did not feel the sting every now and again. In much the same way as we relish the joyous moments when we’ve known the depth of sorrow.
    I could say more but I fear I’d go on too long :-)…There are many directions one could take your words….
    Thank for sharing and the pause for thought.

    1. Thank you – I think we both share similar takes on this.

      Yes, I try to keep my ‘words’ multi faceted and there are truths in all the thoughts expressed by all the commentators.

      All good wishes, Eric 🙂

    1. Ian, you never fail to show me a new perspective – for me, that word ‘imperfect world’ captures the conundrum of love and inevitable loss.

  6. There are no free lunches and no free loves! Pain is often the cost of risking to love wholeheartedly. But a living death is the cost of refusing never to risk giving love unstintingly.

    1. Very truly spoken – as expected from my Granbee. Your words reveal more about your life experiences, observations and beliefs – much wisdom here. Luv and hugz, Eric 🙂

  7. I imagine you have far more than 200 followers but I nominated you for the Liebster Blog Award. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Thank you Walter – appreciate the thought and gesture. Congratulations also for having landed the Liebster Award. Here’s to many more years of blogging, Eric 🙂

    2. Hello again Walter – I posted a comment on your Libester post and believe it went into your WP spam folder. Anyway, here it is >

      My apologies for not getting here earlier – as I experienced internet issues.

      Congratulations for winning this award. Keep blogging from your heart and you’ll surely touch people as you’ve done.

      Thank you for passing this on to me. I value especially the words you’ve heaped on my blog.

      All good wishes and cheer, Eric 🙂

  8. “While refusing to love will still not allow us to avoid suffering AND causing pain, to ourselves … at the very least.” – Ben Naga.

    I assume quoting oneself is allowed?

    1. Hello Ben, quote yourself as much as you want – they’re your words and what truth you quote!

      If refusing to love can still do all this, why not love…what a positive thought! Love this 🙂

    1. Now there is an award that thanks us for writing? What would they think of next! This is so lovely and I’m not surprised that you are collecting so many awards, my dear. I comment when I find compelling posts > which yours are 🙂

      I really appreciate receiving this award, which is a new one for me.

      Thank you and keep blogging, Eric 🙂

    1. No doubts about that…love gives great joy and compassion. I’m a believer in love 🙂

      This post refers to the inevitable loss and that makes it scary, I reckon

  9. Astonishingly reflected the real truth…coz if we suffer,the other will too, if the other is in pain so will you….both are same entries but doubled…as both the sysytems will enter those same entries simultaneously…

    1. Very true Soumya, my dear.

      I don’t know of anyone who loves truly and did not feel the pain their loved one(s) feel(s). Of course, we also feel the joys of our loved one(s).

      Peace and luv, Eric

      1. As you give you’ll receive > multi fold. I’m not surprised you’ve landed yet another award. Congratulations.

        Thank you also for nominating this award my way. I read your words and these mean much for me.

        Let us all keep spreading light and joy, and keep on encouraging each other. And you’re so right > ‘likes’ and ‘comments’ keep us bloggers going.

        – Eric 🙂

    1. Totally agree with you – vulnerability opens the gates to love.

      As we are mortal, we also need to brace for the inevitable, I reckon.

  10. I AGREE ERIC …….
    AND SO SOMETIMES ….JUST SOMETIMES THE HEART DOES NOT WANT TO GIVE ITSELF AT ALL ……….
    UNIVERSALLY- NO PROBLEM ….
    BUT TO ONE ………. YIKES IT HURTS …….
    THANKS FOR BRINGING UP SOMETHING I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT A TON LATELY XOXO CAT

    1. Humans are drawn to love, like moths to an open flame. I may be fatalistic, but feel it is better to love once with all totality than never having loved at all. I have been married for 32 years – to the same woman :-)- ups and downs yes, but no regrets.

      A beautiful soul like you will definitely attract the right one. You have my heartfelt best wishes.

      Your friend, Eric

      1. THANK YOU ERIC ,,,,,,,
        THAT IS SO KIND .,…..
        32 YEARS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CONGRATS – A GAZILLION PERCENT …………
        I SO LOOK AT COUPLES LIKE YOU GUYS AND SAY ———– YES …………. THAT IS WHAT LIFE WILL BE LIKE ….
        IT’S JUST TIMING ………….I THINK ….I DON’T REALLY KNOW ?
        “LOVE IS THE EVERY ONLY THING -“———-WHOM SAID THAT …….REMEMBER THE THING ABOUT THE QUOTES ….:) LOL …………
        THANK YOU AND GOODNIGHT TO YOU AND YOUR LOVELY WIFE …………….FROM TORONTO WITH LOVE ………..:)
        YOUR FRIEND ALWAYS 🙂
        CAT

  11. I agree, I have loved someone to obsession and it only caused both of us unhappiness. It was only when I let go and gave him space did we discover that we really did love each other. It was a tough lesson.

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